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Married 65 years, couple shares secret to love

Posted at 6:18 PM, Feb 12, 2016
and last updated 2016-02-12 18:18:57-05
They met when he was a best man and she was a bridesmaid.
 
It was someone else's special day in 1949 when Cecilia and Louis Murphy first laid eyes on each other.
 
"She and another girl were dancing, and I said, 'Look.  Let's cut in on them.  I don't know which one you want, but I'm taking that one," Louis said.
 
"We were at the reception and Murph came over and asked me to dance and that was it," added Cecilia.
 
You see Murph, as she calls him, was quite the romantic and they were wed the next year.
 
"I saw her every day for 15 months except one day, and I called her up and I said, 'I can't make it.  I've been working all day and I'm tired and I went to bed," he said.
 
"When he gave me my engagement ring, he had given me a pair of gloves and he had the engagement ring on the ring finger of the left hand glove.  I thought that was neat," Cecilia said.
 
Sixty-five years later, the Murphys can assure you that any pressure you might be feeling over what has become a multi-billion dollar business---Valentine's Day-- may not be worth the worry.
 
"If I forgot a holiday, I never heard a word.  Never a word," said Murph.
 
"If there's an anniversary or something that gets forgotten, we go in the store, he reads a card and I read a card and we don't have to pay for them," Cecilia said.
 
Setting aside the cards, the flowers and the chocolates, the couple says they can only offer what's worked for them and is still working today.
 
"I think if I had any advice at all, I would say always love them and put them first,” said Murph, “Don't be first.  Let them be first.  If there's a problem, don't think about them.  Think about yourself."
 
"Things go good.  They go bad, and if you can keep perspective and keep a good sense of humor, you got it made," Cecilia said.
 
It's some advice that's already helped their two daughters and six grandchildren, along with their eight great-grandchildren.